Last night at around 11pm, as I was getting ready to go to bed, I received a text from Him that read, "Are you happy?" The correct reply would've been "Of course! I'm so happy you came into my life!" But, like an inexperienced "older woman" (that I'm), also at the time, tired of talking with him already a few times, I replied, I'm not unhappy.
This morning, I thought a bit about his lifeless last ok, and decided to rectify my faux pas by texting him something more thoughtful. The best I could do, writing Farsi with English alphabet was, I'm thinking of you.
Fifteen minutes later, I got the shock of my very short Cougar life.
I've always said relationships are like plays. In order for them to last, couples need to stay in role. Once you choose your scenario, you can't drop your part and pick another from a different storyline.
I watch movies, I read about celebrities; I know dating a much younger man entails some "sugarmothering," but after one date, I didn't expect Him to reply to my sweet text with, "Make me soup tonight, so I can come over and eat it!"
I think he should've waited at least two weeks before going from, "My beautiful, I miss you," to woman, feed me!
Whether it was a joke, a hint or a test, I took offence. He didn't like my rather harsh reply at all . He wrote I didn't know how to behave with him. I replied, neither you with me. His last famous words were, "Can't you come up with your own sentence?" It made me laugh very hard.
Hopefully, the next one who comes along has a mother who feeds him. In the meantime, I accept and file that F's unexpected arrival and sudden departure (I'm assuming he has departed) helped me reconnect with the Woman. What have you accepted and filed, today?
just reading your blog - does this mean there is leftover soup for lunch tomorrow? ;)
ReplyDeleteI do like your point that with all the (mundane) roles that fill our daily lives, we end up forgetting the 'woman' part! I still recall the first boyfriend I had who referred to me as a "woman." It's a powerful (empowering) word.